happy new year

As the years switched over, I spent the early morning hours gently rocking a sweet, new babe.   There was something poetic about holding a new life as January 1st rang in.  She was a reminder to express gratitude for the past, stay focus on the present, and embrace the future.  

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New Year’s Eve is not one of my most favorite holidays.  It ranks above Halloween but that is not saying much for someone who may still be intrinsically frightened by people with masks.  So much hype goes into New Years celebrations – the parties, the people, the resolutions – and by spending my days in New York City, it is a force that cannot be ignored.  Most years I opt out of hubbub by escaping to Long Island or some other locale and this year was no different.  As the final preparations were put in place in Times Square, I was in flight to the Lone Star State anticipating meeting a good friend’s latest addition to her family. 

Since my visit was a bit of a last minute plan, I tagged along with like-minded people to a lake house an hour or so east of Dallas.  Games were played, drinks were imbibed, and lounging was pursued in earnest.  As the minutes ticked closer to then end of 2015, a sort of group consensus was made that we would all rather spend the new year getting an extra hour of sleep than participating in the obligatory New Year’s cheers. While the rest of the group got themselves situated in their beds, I scooped up the tiniest member for some one-on-one time by the lingering fireplace embers.  As we bounced, rocked, and swayed our way into the new year, I couldn’t help but feel encouraged by the changing calendar despite what ever anxiety provoking moments the previous twelve months had produced.

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I’ve mentioned before my distaste for resolutions but this year has me longing after some more concrete goals in my life.  Perhaps it was the influence of new life that has inspired me to set forth some personal pursuits and attempt to mix things up in 2016.  I’m not quite ready to formally refer to them as resolutions so let’s just be vague about this whole thing and say here are some things I am hoping to incorporate in my life that may make me a better, saner person. 

1. Write Thank You Notes

I am a bit ashamed to admit my shortcomings in this area of my life.  This pertains not only to tangible gifts I have received but also those in the form of thanking someone for sharing their talents or perhaps some deed that they have done that might otherwise go unnoticed.  Also, it is time to bust out the pen and paper because nothing quite compares to the handwritten note.

2. Budget Better and Continuing Conscientious Consumerism

I budget, sort of, as in I have a general idea of how much money I have and where it is going.  However I have some big plans in mind for the next two years and so I feel the need to financially prepare.  Also, I love me some spreadsheets and number crunching so I might as well use it for my benefit.  Along the same line, I’m working on maintaining mindful spending shopping habits and expanding it to other expenses.  I’m not sure what that looks like quite yet but the intention is there.

3. Intentional Outdoors

My current method of getting outside is to run for the hills (or beach… or mountains… or airport…) whenever I get to the point of not being able to cope with city living.  This generally occurs one to two times a week which isn’t terrible per se unless I have the impulse to escape and cannot do it because life and being a responsible human being.  I’m hoping that by setting aside some time each week in the great outdoors, I can avoid the midweek concrete jungle panic. 

4. Run a Race

I was all set for running a marathon this past September and then managed to injure myself (unrelated to any exercise activity), which sidelined me from hitting the trails for a solid four months.  Slowly but surely, I am working on building back up the miles.  Ideally my return to racing would be a family-centric Ragnar but I’ll take what I can get.

5. Limited Screen Time

Somehow in the past year I have become increasingly addicted to my phone.  As I sit here typing, this blue rectangle of distraction is nestled lovingly next to me, pretending to be more of a benefit than a burden.  My current waking and sleeping routines involve me staring into its glow until I can convince myself to get out from under my covers or until I can no longer keep my eyes open, depending on the desired goal.  This cannot be healthy and I know I am not alone in the must-distract-myself-from-all-thoughts mentality.  I’m looking into switching my bedroom over to analog and quitting this habit cold turkey.  Wish me luck.

They’re not the loftiest of goals by any means but they’re where I am at and, fingers-crossed, attainable.  Alright 2016, it may have taken me a couple of weeks but I’m ready – let’s do this.

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note:

i know. only three pictures and they are seemingly unrelated to this post. at the beginning of a new year, it has become a tradition of sorts for me to meander through heckscher state park, with an adorable pup (not mine), and ponder all the january thoughts.  while these musings are from texas, the photos are from new york.  in fact, i took only one picture in texas.  when the fall semester finally came to a close, i found it necessary to take a break (excluding job obligations) from all internet related activities. so i did.

conscientious consumerism

Last month, I declared that one of my new year's goals (yes I am actively avoiding the R word) is to be a conscientious consumer.  This whole process actually started though just before I left for the Southwest.  I know.  This technically isn't tied to the new year as it started back in October but I say it still counts.  Initially, the commitment was to no longer buy clothing that doesn't sit well with my conscience but in the months that followed it sort of expanded into all purchases.  And yes, I know.  I am intentionally being vague. 

When this whole thing began, I had all these buzzwords of things I would feel at peace with purchasing floating about in my head - ethically sourced, environmentally responsible, sustainable, fair trade.  These are all good things but the distinction between how a product is advertised and how it is made turns out to be a bit fuzzy.  Some companies are making genuine changes toward better products but there are also some misrepresenting their products to cash in on the sexiness of sustainability.  Also, I ran into this personal dilemma of if I felt a company was making changes towards those values should I use my purchasing dollars to support them or should I only buy those items currently made in optimal conditions.  And lastly, just because a product is made according to principles I value, it does not mean that it is well made.  It's all swell and dandy to have a responsibly made item, but if it falls apart after the first wearing, it's a waste of money. So many things to consider.  And all right before a trip for which I needed to buy things like hiking boots and a headlamp.

The weight of these decisions made me even more indecisive than my usual self, and in the three months that followed, I purchased for myself a pair of boots, a pair of hiking boots, and two tank tops. Except for the non-hiking boots, every item bought was for the #deathbysouthwest trip.  Mind you during those same three months I discovered that two of my sweaters had holes beyond repair and I lost a pair of pants (don't ask).  All of this is really to say that it is time for me to take the plunge and buy some replacement items.  I knew going into this that not all of my purchases would be perfect… especially when I can't even figure out how to define what perfect would be.  In light of that, I think it is important when starting an endeavor such as this to give oneself grace.  At least that is what I am telling myself. 

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With all of that in mind, I've decided to create a resource list of what I have found so far.   Granted, I am no expert so this list will be subject to many additions, edits, and updates. Please comment/email if you have any suggestions!

hats, socks, and everything in between

Alternative Apparel - long lasting and ridiculously soft tees and sweats
Appalatch - wool apparel and accessories made right here in the US of A*
Brook There - pretty underthings for the lady folk
Buffalo Exchange - sell your old stuff for gently use new stuff (actually any thrift store is good bet)*
Collective - sandals, tees, scarves, and hats from the UK
Everlane - tees, tanks, sweaters with the promise of more goods to come (I'm wearing their tee in this post's pictures)
Imogene + Willie - awesome jeans from Tennessee
Patagonia - all the outdoor gear one ever needs
PACT - mostly undies and tees and they even have a fair trade line
Prana - casual/active attire including bathing suits... and chalk bags
Smart Wool  - love these socks and they love their sheep (or at least are working on the relationship)

shoes

Fluevog - sassy footwear from our neighbors up north (and on my feet in this post's pictures... snow approved)
OAT - ok,  I probably won’t be buying these soon but I couldn't resist adding these to the list; you can plant them and they’ll grow flowers from seeds in the tongue of the shoe.
Oliberté - world's only fair trade footwear manufacturer based in Ethiopia
Osborn - oxfords, flats, loafers, and booties that are not only stylish but sustainable too*
Po-zu - another brand from outside the US and a bit expensive to ship for just one pair of shoes but they're pretty awesome from materials to manufacturing
Sawa - fancy kicks made responsibly in Ethiopia and for sale here

skin

Marble & Milkweed - baths, balms, and butters for your body with everyday ingredients made here in NYC*
Soapwalla - another neighborhood joint that has the best deodorant*

home

Rough Linen - sheets and the like made in one of my favorite places
Swans Island - cozy blankets, throws, and scarves made in Maine
Ten Thousand Villages - they've been selling their eclectic mix of fair trade goodies since 1946 [mic drop]*

some sites on responsible shopping

Good Guide
Environmental Working Group’s Consumer Guides

* denotes newly added companies

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an exceptionally long note/disclaimer:

i want to take a moment here to acknowledge that even the definitions of these principles are pretty vague (except where there are regulations surrounding their use - i’m looking at you, fair trade).  while these are things that make me feel better about purchases there are many factors that go into the items we purchase each and every day.  i get that just slapping those words on a product doesn't mean that the people who made the product were treated well or that the environment is being cared for.  and products that aren't advertised with these principles aren't necessarily made by people in terrible working conditions or are destroying mother nature.  i certainly do not want to be denigrating people who are a part of the production of these items.  it's complicated.  i acknowledge that.  i just would like to at least attempt to consider what i am purchasing and the effects of that exchange before it is made.    

some other notes:

- wise words to keep in mind when sorting through all of these thoughts on manufacturing:

“It's taken for granted that Chinese factories are oppressive and that it is our desire for cheap goods that makes them so. This simple narrative equating Western demand and Chinese suffering is appealing especially at a time when many of us already feel guilty about our impact on the world. But it is also inaccurate and disrespectful. We must be peculiarly self-obsessed to imagine that we have the power to drive tens of millions of people on the other side of the world to migrate and suffer in such terrible ways.”
-- Leslie Chang

- Fibershed is an awesome project that “develops regenerative textile systems that are based on carbon farming, regional manufacturing, and public education.” check them out to learn more about the process of fiber to fabric.

- not all big businesses are bad. the Social Accountability International is a network of corporations (from Disney to HP), ngos, trade unions, and government entities working together to implement humane workplace standards across the globe.  yes, the compliance standards are voluntary (compulsory for members) but at least it's a start.

- these photos were taken during a leg stretching moment at a little snowed in park off the nys thruway in the adirondacks.  sometimes when adventuring, grace and i just need to get out of the car, be ridiculous human beings, and laugh at ourselves.  i highly recommend it.  better yet, use slo-mo on the ole phone.

happy new year

I’m not one for making a big to do over the changing of years.  Usually I slowly accept that one year is coming to an end and then a bit reluctantly make my way into the next.  I would like to blame my lack of enthusiasm on my inability to function past 10 pm but really it is because there is just too much pressure on one night.  Add that to me not being much of a drinker, startling easily from loud noises, and as a general rule avoiding crowds, and my attitude toward the holiday is not surprising.  My favorite New Year’s Eve thus far has been an evening of cooking with a few friends and then lounging in front of a fire while sipping champagne.  We may have even missed the ball dropping (Full disclosure: I didn't even realize what the ball drop was, as in what I was supposed to be paying attention to, until I was about 20 years old.  I grew up in New York.  This should be standard knowledge.)

This year I found myself with a small group of friends, eating too many snacks, and snuggling with a family member’s pup as the new year rang in.   I was grumpy before I made my way over and I was grumpy after.  In fact, I've been kind of a crank pot since this year started.  Not exactly the way we are told to bring in a new year.  If I am following social media trends, the start of a new year should align with me actively pursuing my best self.  The one who makes good choices, eats right, takes time to exercise, loves others well, practices self-care, etc. I have not been my best self though.  I’ve been quick to anger, full of constant complaints, and unhappy with myself and those around me.  In other words, I have been an absolute joy to be around.

I could make up excuses for behaving and thinking this way - the end of Christmas season blues, a succession of personal trials, and feeling letdown by friends - but if I am being honest, it’s time to get over myself and great the new year.  I’ve never been one for resolutions but in light of my current Debbie Downer self, I am thinking of instituting some goals for the year.  Instead of being specific outcomes, I am leaning towards some general principles that I think would encourage a better self and perhaps make me a little bit less focused on what goes on in my own head.

Firstly, I value being a conscientious consumer so I am working towards making purchases from companies that put people and the environment first.  I actually started this back in October but it’s an ongoing process.  The lack of information concerning sources for clothing, food, and skin products is pretty disheartening.  I would have thought with how trendy sustainability and corporate responsibility have become that finding company policies wouldn’t be as difficult as it has proven to be.  Although, a positive outcome from not being able to easily find products that meet my standards means that I have purchased very few things. Ten points for the savings account.

Secondly, I am my happiest when I am outdoors in nature.  However, when I've been holed up in front of a computer all day and it’s cold outside and nature feels so far away from my urban abode, I tend to neglect that part of my life.  I am focusing on making exploration in the great outdoors a priority so that it’s incorporated into my life's rhythms as opposed to being a reward or an escape at the end of the week.

Thirdly, when life gets busy, I have strong hermit tendencies and while I am a tried and true introvert, I need community.  People are social creatures, even us loner types, and hanging out with various types of folks makes us all happier people.  In the past, I've been more of a community consumer than a contributor which allowed me to lazily tag along to someone else's idea rather than be the one to initiate plans.  In light of this recent realization, I've been making a conscious effort to seek out others, especially when I get stuck in a cycle of work, home, bed, repeat.

So those are my 2015 goals - conscientious consumer, pursuer of outdoor adventures, and community contributor. I'm already feeling better about this year.

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- these photos were taken on new year's day at Heckscher State Park out on Long Island. it's a great park to cure some of those winter blues or, you know, chat about life's ups and downs with a best friend while taking your brother's dog for a walk.