how to survive: camping with your dog

To be honest, camping with my Westie Bestie, also known as Charles the Feminist, was not something I would have initiated on my own.  The pup requires a fair amount of beauty rest to maintain his rugged good looks and he’s pretty terrible about sharing sleeping quarters.  Also, being a rescue he can get a bit stressed in new environments and the last thing I would want is for him to spend a weekend away feeling panicked in his little puppy heart.  But when my partner in crime Grace suggested that he tag-a-long, I couldn’t help but at least try it.  I mean who wouldn’t want to hangout with this handsome devil nonstop for three days.  I’m happy to report that my fears were [mostly] unfounded and our inaugural camping trip was quite the success.  If Charles were on a hearts and minds campaign, there would be no competition.  The pup excels at garnering maximum belly rubs from unsuspecting strangers.

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I went into this whole dog-in-tent situation pretty blind.  What more could he need than the basic necessities of water/food/bathroom bags?  Should you find yourself in a similar situation, here’s what I learned from my first pup + camping adventure:

1) Provide a comfortable traveling experience.

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Charles the Feminist has his own car seat when living it up with my parental units.  Actually, he has two because who really wants to be switching those things out from one car to another.  Now usually I would be an obnoxious child and mock my parents for having such a thing.  Charles is a dog.  Dogs can do just fine sitting on a seat with a towel, if need be.  However after having the pleasure of driving more than 20 hours in 3 days with my canine companion, the seat was a necessity.  Not only did it keep the pup contained but he seems to have quite the affinity for that apparatus.  It allowed for prime window gazing, nose in the breeze-ing (when permitted), and he was always happy to get in the jeep.  A win-win for all involved.  As an aside: if your dog is on the larger side of life, a more comfortable traveling experience may entail a fluffy blanket and ample space to stretch out.

2) Plan size-appropriate activities or be prepared to carry your pup.

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While in Acadia National Park, Grace and I decided to hike to Bubble Rock, which is described as a moderate trail that when all said and done is about 1.5 miles.  Since we found the Bubbles to be fairly easy/we weren’t as tired as we were expecting given our back to back 4 am wake-ups, we decided to take on the Jordan Pond path which was described as an easy and level loop.  We took what I am guessing is the Bubbles Divide trail but what was later referred to as the Avalanche by a local, which adequately sums up what I encountered with Charles – all the rocks.  For us human folk, it was fun to scramble down various wannabe boulders.  For the canine in the group with adorable stumps for legs, it proved to be a lessen in foot placement and I would guess that he was carried by yours truly for about half of the trail.  Tacking on Jordan Pond Path brought our hike to about 5 miles so by the end of it Charles could no longer find the energy to keep his shortness moving.  Fortunately, being 20 lbs means that he is easily schlepped but I would recommend avoiding my mishap and keeping in mind your dog’s stature and previous mileage when choosing your hike.  Or be prepared to get in a nice arms workout.  Grace is pushing for me to add one of these to the camping gear.  I think I’ll plan on keeping our hikes puppy appropriate from here on out. 

3) Prepare to have your sleeping space invaded.

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As I mentioned, Charles is not the best at sharing a bed.  He takes his sleep schedule quite seriously and makes known his displeasure at any mid-slumber toss and turns.  Given the cool evening temperatures in Maine this time of year, Charley had no choice but to snuggle up and deal with my intermittent movements.  Add to it that we had two people and a pup in a two person tent and things got very cozy indeed.  In retrospect, I would have thrown a dog bed/blanket in the car.  Mind you the pup had no trouble at all getting his shut eye in but I would have preferred a little less late night snuggles.

4) Embrace the camp dog stench.

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 During our island hopping adventures, I encouraged Charles to take advantage of the calm seas and go for a swim.  Dogs should be dogs and run/swim/play to their hearts' content.  (Except for rolling in dead things/animal feces.  We will have none of that.)  By the time we got back to the campground, it was evening but I still wanted to hose him down since he had spent some quality time in the sea.  He was the epitome of a salty dog.  Much to his disapproval, I tossed him in the shower for a quick rinse, hoping that there was still enough sunlight for him to dry off before the temperature dropped.  Huge mistake.  The cool evening temps necessitated me wrapping Charles in one of my sweatshirts and then letting him cozy up in my sleeping bag.  Lest I remind you of point number 3, this was not the greatest of sleeping set-ups for me.  Lesson learned and bath time will only be occurring at the height of summer heat or in the comfort of his own home.  The pup scent is part of the whole camping experience - why cut yourself short?

5) Make new friends.

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People love dogs.  Or should I say, people love Charles.  This dog is more than willing to take a break from whatever the day's activities to allow his adoring fans to show him some love.  Everywhere we went, someone would stop by and ask to pet him while chatting about their own puppy loves.  It created a quick community in a place where Grace and I would have otherwise most likely been left alone.  At the Bass Head Harbor Lighthouse, we met two engineers from Detroit who helped with the transport of Charles over some obstacles.  Along the Jordan Pond Loop, we met a kind older couple who had recently lost their own dog so we exchanged stories on the impact of pets.  Old Quarry Campground is exceptionally dog-friendly so Charles was off-leash and free to mingle with some of his peers.  

All-in-all it was a successful first camping adventure with the pup.  Now to plan our next excursion... 

how to survive: traveling on a budget

At the beginning of a new year, everyone seems to have the traveling bug.  The New York Times has posted their annual list of places to visit, blogs and businesses alike are jumping on to the top 16 of 2016 bandwagon, and if you live in the Northeast winter has decided to finally make an appearance.  As the mercury begins its daily struggle to rise above 30 degrees, warmer locales are looking mighty fine these days.   Mighty fine.  Travel isn’t cheap though and if you are like us (adequate but decidedly not fancy pants income + living in ridiculously expensive city + must go to all the places), you may find yourself with limited means to fund your latest weekend escape. Here are some principles we follow to in order to indulge our winter wanderlust.

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- Find the Cheapest Seat - 

I am an equal opportunity traveler meaning I will take trains, planes, and automobiles as well as use my own two legs to get to where I need to be.  Usually to find the best deal, you need to be flexible with your travel dates.  Unfortunately with my current work/school schedule, this is not an option.  Instead I explore all my options before settling on one.  Kayak is great for flights (just don’t forget about Southwest) and I use Google maps to figure out what my public transit options are.  If you have some flexibility in when you are traveling, I highly recommend setting up airfare watchdog notifications for your intended destinations.  I’ve been able to book $130 round-trip tickets to Dallas this way.  NYC also has great bus options to semi-local cities, e.g., Boston, DC, Philadelphia.  If booked early enough a ticket can cost as little as $1.  Mind you time is money to me so maybe the cheapest method is taking a bus but it would require me to take a half-day of work off due to the extra travel hours.  If that's the case, I’m booking the flight or taking Frida out for a spin.

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- Be Open to Creative Housing - 

I have surprisingly low standards when it comes to where I will lay my noggin to rest.  My criteria are basically no bedbugs and I have to feel safe (I know, vague…). This has led to a variety of lodging locales when traveling.  If possible, I crash with friends or family because a free place to stay will trump all other options – also bonus points for seeing people I love.  When Grace and I took an impromptu road trip to Montreal last January (how has it already been a year), we ended up crashing at a friend of a friend's sister's apartment and then Grace returned the favor during their visit to NYC.  My friend and I plan yearly getaways and take advantage of the cheap housing offered through her parents' timeshare.  This has translated into a two bedroom condo for a week at only $300 or so.  It requires a bit of flexibility in the travel location – our original plan to party up in Northern Idaho has been traded in for a desert destination – but the accommodations have always been perfect, i.e., hot tub on premise for soaking our tired post-hike bones.  Other more standard options include checking out what's available on AirBNB/VRBO-type sites or staying at hotels that are farther out from your intended place of stay.  A hotel in Brooklyn is cheaper than Manhattan and a hotel in Queens will almost always be cheaper than anything you can find in either of those boroughs.

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 - Know Your Weakness - 

The last two times I have been responsible for picking up the rental car I have royally screwed it up.  As in having to call upon returning home and beg to have charges removed that I never intended to purchase (I'm looking at you overpriced and oftentimes unnecessary insurance).  There are things in life that I will never excel at – renting a car is one of them.  For all future car rental endeavours I will gladly hand off the responsibility to someone else, whenever possible.  I'm pretty good a procuring a cheap meal or finagling low cost flights so I'll save my energy for what's most helpful.  Recognizing what one's shortcomings and strengths are can go a long way in keeping travel costs low.

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- Save Your Pennies -

There are no short cut around this - if you know you want to go away a few times a year, set aside money every month to fund your getaway.  It may sound simple yet it can be quite difficult to let your extra hard-earned cash just sit by its lonesome in a savings account.  I mean there are coffee dates to be had and bourbons to sip not to mention the late night I-don’t-want-to-make-anything-so-I’ll-just-order-sushi habit.  My current tactic to avoid spending my spare funds is to pretend that whatever is in my savings account doesn't exist.  That is barring a financial emergency what goes in does not come out until it is used for its intended purpose.  If transferring that money over from your checking requires too much willpower, you can set up an automatic transfer each month or have a separate savings account just for traveling.  Also, in the literal sense of saving one's pennies, I am a big fan of the putting pocket change in a jar travel fund.  It's like Christmas when I get to exchange all of those rolled up coins for paper currency to be used however I please on holiday.

Anyone else fully consumed with planning this year's getaways?  How are you planning on funding your wanderlusting habit?

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notes:

apparently we are not the only ones with budget travel in mind.  the ny times has this handy article on ways to save for travel. it would have been a helpful read before i booked a trip to vietnam during tet.  oh well, you live and learn.  also, who knew the times had a frugal travel blog?  you probably knew this but in case you didn’t you can find it here.

you may notice that credit card miles/points didn't make the cut for this list.  frankly, it's just too much of a hassle for me.  one credit card is more than enough for my brain to manage on a monthly basis.  however, should playing the rewards game be more your style, there are plenty of resources to help you out.  the points guy and nomadic matt are two relatively well-known blogs pertaining to these matters just perhaps pay attention to when they are being paid to espouse the values of certain cards.  cheers to capitalism.

how to survive: backpacking in the great outdoors

After what seemed like an unbearably long winter and a pretty cool spring, it finally feels like summer.  And that means it's time for me to dust off the ole backpack.  I have no plans yet for where I might go but the possibility of it is enough to motivate me through these next few weeks of classes.  Top contenders are currently Bear Mountain, the Adirondacks, and Fire Island.  If I took a less realistic approach to my current life situation and finances, I would hop on a plane to the Oregon coast in a hot second. 

Backpacking is not for everyone.  As the name implies, it requires you to carry everything on your back and limits the non-necessities one can take (ahem alcohol).  It also necessitates taking care of one's business in the great outdoors and not showering for extended periods of time… not exactly a selling point for most.

Even with those supposed drawbacks, I can't help but love it.  Backpacking is a great reminder of how little we actually need.  And after spending most of my days in a concrete jungle, it's a very welcome break from the daily grind of NYC. If you are like me and are considering a summer backpacking trip, here's what I think you need to survive:

1. Know your limits.

Before heading out, have a clear idea of how far you can hike in a day and how many days you wish to live out of your pack.  Look, I love Cheryl Strayed too but I'm going to go out on a limb here and say that the safer approach would be to work one's way up to a through-hike.  There's nothing worse than hiking 20 miles out, feeling terribly sore from carrying a heavy pack, and knowing that you have to continue to hike in order to get back out to civilization.  I guess the alternative to this would be to plan an escape route but that kind of defeats the purpose of backpacking a bit.  

2. Travel with friends.

I am all for the solo backpacking trips, despite any prior negative experiences.  However (and that is a big however) if you have never gone backpacking before, I would highly recommend that you bring a buddy.  This will also help lighten up your load as you can divide and conquer heavier items such as your tent.

3. Bring lots of snacks.

Yes, these things are heavy but as a bonus you eat down the weight on your back so every time you stop to refuel your pack magically gets lighter.  In line with this, make frequent stops for snacks and rehydration.  When I was out in Joshua Tree, I came very close to passing out due to a lack of calories and water.  A smidgen embarrassing when hiking with new friends.  That being said, don't be like me - never feel bad about telling whoever you are with that you need a break.  It will always feel much better than the alternative.  Oh and folks, now is not the time to try to lose those love handles.  For more specifics, REI has a nifty meal planning guide and I've posted some meal ideas here.

4. Be familiar with your gear.

Before starting on a trip, I make a list, lay everything out, and then I set it all up, tent included.  I still manage to forget what some may consider necessities, e.g., flashlight, but at least I know for sure that the main items are functional and packed.  Test out your stove and fuel canisters too if you are bringing them.  Also, while it may seem that you need all the bells and whistles before heading out on a backpacking adventure, I think simple is the best approach.  Who really wants to carry a 30+ lb pack on their back?  Not me.  Setting everything up ahead of time will help you figure out what should stay and what should go.

5. Don't take yourself too seriously.

You are presumably backpacking to have fun and enjoy all the awesomeness that mother nature has to offer.  Embrace it.  I don't know about you but I don't exactly look like a) I know what I am doing or b) that I am remotely attractive while backpacking.  And it just doesn't matter.  I mean you want to have some idea of what you are doing as to prevent injury to yourself, others, and the environment but there's no need to project an image of expertise. Live in the moment and just embrace your inner weirdo.

notes:

- at some point i will make a more official packing list but for now here's some of the gear i use and love: sleeping bag, sleeping pad, stove and windshield (absolute necessity with that stove), hiking boots, and winter hiking boots.  for those of you paying attention, yes those are all rei links and no i don't own stock in the company.  while i definitely shop around for the best price, when it comes to footwear i will only buy from rei.  the kind folks there took back my disgustingly dirty vasque boots after 10+ miles in the dusty desert and two lost toe nails.  my feet are forever grateful for the exchange.

- related to the above note, don't leave home without the ten essentials.  youmight want to learn some basic first aid skills while you are at it.    

- i consider myself a novice backpacker.  there are lots of amazing women (and gents) out there with all sorts of excellent advice.  for inspiration, check out April Sylva, Christy Rosander, and the lovely ladies of @dirtbarbieadventures.

how to survive: traveling with your mother

It seems fitting that as we are in this weekend that celebrates all things motherhood that we should talk about our mothers, namely my mother who has accompanied me on many hare-brained and full-brained adventures.  While my family has always made traveling a priority (a perk of having a father who earns a ridiculous amount of miles from work), it wasn’t until after high school that my mom and I started having our own trips without the menfolk.  Side note: there was the epic college road tour of 2002 while I was in high school, but since I have a narcoleptic response to motion sickness and we made that journey via a standard vehicle, I have very few memories.

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In the 10+ years we’ve been adventuring together, my mom and I have traveled about in Paris, Poland, Uganda, Tanzania, Singapore, Cambodia, and Vietnam. Not to mention the various weekend trips we’ve taken to visit friends and loved ones here in the States.  Throughout all of this adventuring, we have managed to actually enjoy each other and ourselves on these trips to the extent that we continue to make future plans together.  So if you are thinking about setting out on a trip with your mom, here are some lessons we’ve learned along the way:

1. Be vocal about your needs before you start your trip. 

My mom loves history and story and art and then more history and then even more art… and you see where this is going.  I sometimes think that if it was possible and not creepy that my mom would live in an art museum.  I on the other hand need a whole lot of fresh air and a fair amount of downtime from crowds.  When traveling about in Paris, we made a deal.  In the morning we could go to any museum, exhibit, or the like that my mom desired but in the afternoon we would mosey about a new arrondissement and take advantage of the numerous cafes.  Both of us got what we needed and hurt feelings/unmet expectations were avoided.

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2. Embrace alone time. 

Don’t get me wrong.  I love my mom.  It’s just that space is a good thing, even on or especially on a mother/daughter vacation. Make it a point to spend some time wandering about your new locale on your own terms.  This is especially important if you don’t both operate on the same schedule.  Instead of waiting for your travel buddy to wake up, get ready, etc., go outside and stretch your legs.  Hey now, you may even make a new friend during your wanderings.

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3. Pursue activities that only make you happy solo.

 In case you are new to this neck-of-the-interwebs, I love to explore the outdoors and have a hard time saying no if it is in any way, shape, or form related to some kind of activity in nature.  My mom enjoys these things but also really appreciates sunbathing with a cold beer and a good book.  In Vietnam, we all were invited to go on a hike through the woods to a waterfall.  Two out of three of us thought that sounded like an excellent idea so my friend and I went and my mom hung out down by the beach.  Happily.  Without resentment. 

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4. All you need is love.

Need I say more?  But seriously - you’ve made this decision to travel with your mother so there is a general assumption that she’s a pretty sweet lady.  After all she had something to do with you now being an (almost) adult.  Inevitably, we all get on each other’s nerves at some point but the best response we can have is to choose to assume positive intent.  Because after all we love our mamas and I’m pretty sure they love us too.

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notes:

- all these photos are from our trip to cambodia and vietnam.  it was pretty epic.

- what do you say mama, antartica next?

how to survive: trans-pacific flights

In order to get from NYC to Singapore (our first stop), we first took at 16 hour flight to Seoul followed by a 2 hour layover and then another 6 hour flight to Singapore. All in all that is 24 hours and that's not even including travel to/from the airport. So in order to not go crazy from being in a confined space here's how I kept myself entertained:

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- SLEEP: Don't hate me but I am one of those people who has the ability to sleep just about anywhere, especially if that place is in motion. That being said, this last trip I only slept for about 12 hours. Why? I had so many other fun activities to keep me occupied. 

- FOOD: Airlines love to feed you on international flights. Thus far I have enjoyed many bags of honey roasted peanuts, bibimbap, some sort of chicken dish, a beef bun, mini pizza, chocolate cake, some sort of beef dish, and a fried rice triangle. Usually I request vegetarian but I forgot and in the grand scheme of airplane food Korean Air was pretty tasty. I would even go so far to say that the bibimbap was delicious. 

- DRINKS: They love to booze you too but be careful with that one.  No one will benefit from your drunken antics and the combination of dehydration and a cheap alcohol hangover is truly brutal. Not that I've ever personally experienced that. 

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- PHOTOGRAPHY: That view from your window (should you have a window seat... get a window seat if you're on a long flight it helps with activity #1) is constantly changing what better way to pass the hours than document it. I'm sure all your friends and family want to relive your moments aboard that plane. And who knows, maybe you'll even capture something on the wing

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- BRUSHING UP ON THOSE CARTOGRAPHY SKILLS: Countless hours can be spent consulting the various maps now available for your viewing pleasure. Watch your plane slowly move across the screen, check out where the sun is shining and where the night has fallen, marvel at how fast you're traveling. There's even a time to destination clock so you can stare at those minutes counting down and a camera on the plane's tail to watch yourself slowly inch across the globe. 

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- TV/MOVIES: Catch up on all your favorite shows and films such as The Science of Bubbles and your choice of 2 episodes of the Big Bang Theory. Ok - they had other options too like Whiplash, This is Where I Leave You, and Charade. But I found myself having to space out my options in order to save something for the return flights. Nothing says high anxiety like the debate over what to watch and when. 

- GAMES: Oh the time spent staring at various screens in order to distract oneself. Not only did my flight have a variety of classics to choose from (Tetris anyone?) but I also had the fortune/misfortune of discovering a new app courtesy of New Tech City's Manoush Zomorodi. I don't think my time investment thus far on Two Dots was the intended outcome of Manoush's Bored and Brilliant challenge but let me tell you I do a fine job connecting those little dots together. Definitely time well spent. 

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- THINKING BAD THOUGHTS ABOUT YOUR NEIGHBORS: I spent the majority of my 6 hour flight to Singapore on this timeless activity. People. Shower before entering a confined space. No one wants to be all up in your stink. No one. 

- THINKING OF ALL THOSE THINGS YOU WERE SUPPOSED TO ACCOMPLISH BEFORE YOU LEFT: Now is a great time for making lists. What better way to start off a vacation than to think of the myriad of ways you have already screwed yourself over. That friend you were supposed to email, the package you had to send, the 1,496 things your supervisor/friend would have preferred for you to finish - just mull over those. You can't do anything about it now so this an activity that just keeps on giving. 

- PLANNING FUTURE TRIPS AND ACTIVITIES: Perhaps my most favorite time-passing activity is planning future ones. Sure you just spent X amount of money on the vacation you are about to start/just finished but that means you are in the perfect mindset to start thinking about where you'll go next with the cash you don't have. Most airlines will even help you out by providing you with an in-flight magazine of all the places you should be exploring. I think Italy may be calling my name. 

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These all worked like a charm on my way to Southeast Asia. Here's to hoping I have the same good luck on the way back. Also, NYC if you could warm up a bit that would be swell. These bones are not quite ready for sub-freezing temps.